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55% of teachers say they will leave the profession sooner than they had planned, according to a new poll by the nation's largest teachers union. And 90% of its members say that burnout is a serious problem. @anya1anya https://t.co/nvb99jNyer

Birth trauma minimized

Anybody else feel like birth trauma is minimized in society? I hear of so many stories about women experiencing horrible things during childbirth, yet it is still portrayed as this beautiful experience. I’ve heard of women breaking their pelvis during childbirth, getting fourth degree tears leading to permanent incontinence, developing autoimmune diseases postpartum, etc. I developed C. difficile after my c section , and am still fighting it six months later. While I was at the hospital five pediatricians would come and check on my son, who was doing fine, whereas maybe one OB resident checked on me every other day, even though I had a life threatening infection and was in the hospital for five days. And don’t get me started about the lack of pain management post delivery and the intense pressure to breastfeed. I’m sure plenty of women have lovely birth experiences, but it seems like nobody wants to talk about how traumatic birth can be. How can we change the perception?

I was just harassed on the street

For not wearing a bra. I was pushing my baby in the stroller and a woman started shouting “brassier, brassier!” At me. Then she said “and you have a child, you should be ashamed of yourself”. I was totally shocked and wasn’t sure what just happened so I kept walking. I then saw her a few minutes later on the same street and she shouted “brassier, brassier” and I said “pardon” and she said “what an adorable baby, BRASSIER!” For context, I was not wearing a bra… I was in a black maxi dress and didn’t feel like I was exposing myself… but now I feel very shaken and mortified right now. This woman looked like a normal, unassuming person. Didn’t appear drunk or high. What would compel someone to humiliate another human being this way?

Can I rant?

My kid takes so long to fall asleep and wakes up in the splitest of seconds… today my kid woke up at 7 (unusual, except on weekends). So we went to the park and played in the hot son until he was exhausted, went to get ice cream, then went home. On the way, I notice he’s tuckered out, so I take the long way, he’s fighting falling asleep for literally 30 mins, i finally give up and start heading home. We get home, he’s passed out. I carry him slowly to his room and the second his head touches the pillow, up and running around. He wasn’t asleep for 10 mins… This kills me, deeply in my core. I’m thinking about hiring a nanny. I like spending time with my kid and we do a lot together, but i need an hour or two in the week where I’m not working and I’m not parenting. How are other single parents doing it?

to parents who don’t have a garage/park a bit away from their home, do you carry baby inside in their car seat or just carry baby in?

husband wants to carry the car seat with baby strapped in each time and i hate carrying the car seat, so i just wanna bring in the baby. what does everyone else do? ALSO at what age did you stop bringing the car seat and just bring the baby in? ours is 3 months. [View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/uuujth)

how to quiet a crying baby.. supposedly lol! worth a try

So?

Who else is at the point where they judge how up throw up is an acceptable amount before changing clothes? For baby *and* you lol Or drool. Or even food. What's your limit? 😅

I hate missing out and being left home alone.

My husband has a wedding to attend today. Baby(4mo) and I were invited, but it’s 95 degrees out today, and it’s an outside wedding. So I made the executive decision to keep her home. So he went, and that’s okay. But I’m feeling sorry for myself. I wanted to go. I wanted to have a few drinks and see friends. I wanted to have an enjoyable afternoon. But it’s more important to me that she is safe and healthy. So I’m home with her playing and trying to keep a happy face. We didn’t want to ask family to watch her because they already do during the week, and we don’t want to ask too much out of them, because other people already do. I intend to hire a sitter, but we haven’t sat down to do our face to face meeting yet, so no go there. So yeah, pity party for one here. I keep longer for the days when she is older and able to attend more with us.

While this list of parenting don’ts was initially directed towards me in anger, but it turned out to be therapeutic for both of us. And maybe for you too? #parentingteens @TryHardMommy https://t.co/r51BgJPr9t

Is this safe for a baby who can roll ?

Outdoor play mat suggestions?

Now that the weather is nice I’d like to be able to sit on my patio with baby boy. I have been trying to search online for outdoor play mats but all the ones I find seem to be really flat. I need one that has some cushion against the wood floor of the patio. Anyone have any good outdoor play mats? TIA!!

Is it gross to resell a pregnancy pillow?

I have one of those big prengnacy pillows I barely used. I bought it at $50. I want to sell if on Marketplace for maybe $15 bucks. No stains or nastiness on it. What are your thoughts?

What do two working parents do with their school-aged kids during summer break?

If both parents have to work full time (not remotely), what is done about childcare during summer break... and winter/fall/spring breaks, for that matter? Isn't camp expensive and only like a week long? What if grandparents aren't retired yet or aren't around anymore? Is the only solution to be a teacher so you're off when the kids are off? At what age can you just leave them home alone? I grew up with a parent who stayed home, but it seems like two-income households are more the norm nowadays because of the cost of everything. Is there a solution I'm missing? I'm not sure how they manage academic breaks.

Overwhelmed with 5 year old

I need help dealing with my 5 year old. She talks non-stop and won’t play independently or with most toys in general. Always been that way. I feel like I’m losing my mind around her. She just never stops and needs constant attention. I engage her in activities or let her help me with things but she still talks non-stop and doesn’t follow my instructions which makes me frustrated. I can’t have a second to breathe during the day unless I turn on the tv cause she follows me around, talking incessantly, complaining or whining for attention. I realize the problem is me because she’s just a child but it feels extreme and overwhelming. Do I seek counselling for myself? Any suggestions or resources? I just want to be a good mom instead of frustrated with her all the time! I thought she may have ADHD but it seems like these behaviours are mostly at home.

can't get baby to sleep in bassinet

I'm a first time mom with an 8 day old baby boy. I delivered via C-section and for the first several days, since it was so hard to get up and down, I just let him sleep in my arms. I realize now that was probably a bad idea, but I didn't think he was old enough to form habits yet. Now that I'm recovered, I'm trying to transition him to sleeping in the bassinet and he is not having it. Even swaddled, I can only get him to sleep for about 10 minutes at a time before he's awake and screaming, whereas in my arms/on my chest he'll sleep for anywhere from 1-3 hours. Overall, he's not a fussy baby at all. He mostly cries when something is wrong and is easily consolable once the problem is fixed. When he wakes in the bassinet, he calms down when I feed him again. Do I just keep putting him down and letting him learn to sleep in there in small increments?