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Help me avoid buying a dildo 😅

Hopefully the title grabbed some attention. My baby is addicted to vibrating to stay asleep and every damn baby thing that uses batteries and vibrates turns off after 30 min. Withing seconds of the vibrate turning off, he wakes up abruptly screaming. Anything I find that vibrates continuously is something that plugs in..and wires wouldn't be safe. Literally the only thing Ive found that runs on batteries and continuously vibrates is ...dildos. Anyone know of a vibrating baby product that doesn't turn off at 30 min?

I started today by falling down the stairs and will end it by taking my 9 month old to the doctors because I let her she grab a hot pan and burn her fingers.

I feel like the worst mom in the world. I can't believe I let her get so hurt. I negligently left a hot pan on the back burner and she was able to squirm out of my arms and grab it before I could stop her. My poor baby was inconsolable, crying, in so much pain, so confused. Her wound was washed and bandaged. I held her and rocked her until she took her nap. I gave her some tylenol for the pain. I'm taking her to the pediatrician in an hour. Early this morning, I slipped on the stairs that we are currently getting redone. I fell hard and just sat on the floor crying. I have an intense bruise on the whole left side of my body. Thank goodness I wasn't holding my daughter at the time. I just can't do anything right today.

Help me get my 5 year old on a diet?

So he's 5 but about 100 pounds (so like 50 over average). I try to cut portions and snacks but his mom undermines me and gives in to his excessive whining that he's hungry or wants ice cream or whatever. We occasionally go for walks, and I'd bike ride with him but he's still kinda tipsy so I run next to him. Any idea for exercises he'd actually do or meals/foods that are low calorie options? Keep in mind he's 5 so he a bit of a picky eater lol. Thanks all!

I get it now. Hamburger with cheese. Not a cheeseburger.

When I was young I’d always being confused about why people would order a hamburger and ask for cheese to be added- instead of just ordering a cheeseburger. Today- it clicked. The answer. The people ordering hamburgers with cheese… were parents. My son doesn’t want a cheeseburger. He wants a hamburger but yes- he wants cheese on it.

Resilience is teachable. Why do we wait? “It is an ultimate irony that at the time when the human is most vulnerable to the effects of trauma—during infancy & childhood—adults generally presume the most resilience.”-Perry, Pollard, Blakley, Baker,& Vigilante, 1995

When am I not a “new parent” anymore?

My son is 19 months now, this sub has served me well…but I feel like I’m an old dog to the game lol. There are lots of things in this sub that are things I’ve experienced and survived. Phases we muddled through but no longer experience. So I question, should I still be considered a “new parent?” Are my responses helpful or wanted? If this is my last post here, just know y’all, the late babyhood and toddler years are so much fun!! Walking, talking, trying to make you laugh is a ride worth sticking out some of the dark days of early parenthood. You are amazing for finding the good in the days where things seem so bad! You’re raising the future of the world and I thank you for doing it mindfully ❤️

26 month old limited speech.

My 26 month old barley talks. She understands a lot of what you tell her such as following simple instructions. However, Whenever I watch videos of other kids her age I freak out because she isn’t speaking much. I recently enrolled her in school and it’s helped a bit but I think she is getting her languages mixed up. Her teacher speakers mostly Spanish and we speak Spanish in the home as well so she says a mix or words. At times she will say a sentence like “look at the boat” or “ I see you” and I am stunned but that’s very few and far in between. Any ideas on what I can do to promote more language? Or ideas on what you think could be happening? Thanks all

Embarrassed by sons behavior.

My son just turned 6. He’s been diagnosed with ADHD and we just started medicating him. He was having a great day today then one of my friends stopped over for a few mins. He randomly went up to her and kicked her. He also went running wild around the house the whole time she was here. Not only am I at a loss of what to do with my son, I’m also mortified about he he acted around my friend. I just feel that he’s behavior is my fault that I’ve done such a bad job for the last 6 years and that’s why he’s like this.

Is it ok for a single mom to have male friends over??

I am 25 with a 4yr old girl. I have a serious long term relationship and she sees him as a father. I have some platonic male friends who I have never had over my condo because its usually just me and my daughter and when my SO is over I like our alone/ family time. So anyway, I've been struggling with the idea of having one of my male friends visit because I am generally alone with my daughter and maybe a little paranoid. I'm worried that she would be confused by other men coming around since the only men who come to our place are my brothers and her step father. I'm also worried about being an irresponsible parent? I'm not sure if its "acceptable" to have a man over with my small child present. I really want to have him over since its hard for me to go out (don't have a car) but I'm just worried it may be wrong.

Avoiding the stomach bug (norovirus) as a parent?

Calling on any parents that have had to deal with the nightmare that is the stomach flu (norovirus) entering your home from your kids: While caring for your poor, sick little one, have you ever been able to successfully avoid catching it yourself as a parent? Or are we all just automatic goners in 24-48 hours? We’ve avoided colds from him, but so far we are losing 2 to 0 to norovirus and LO just brought it home a third time. He seems to be a magnet for this crap, and it’s such a completely miserable illness to experience. So far we are washing hands obsessively, Lysol-wiping surfaces, eating takeout and wearing masks when dealing with his “fluids” or while we are cuddling/handling him. It might be too late for us but I’m sure this bug is bound to hit us again in the fall at this rate. So if there are any parents out there that have tamed the norovirus beast before it got you in its evil clutches… please teach me your ways!

Does anyone know about Oppositional defiant disorder?

Does anyone know about oppositional defiant disorder? I’m sure my daughter has it but we can’t get any appointments for her to be seen till the 28th so I’m trying to educate myself.

Starting to think I may not be fit for anymore kids

I’m a first time mom and I get really frustrated with my 15 month old sometimes. He’s like a little sour patch kid. Sometimes he drives me crazy and other times he’s super sweet and fun to be around. Like just now. He took a really short nap earlier and he seemed sleepy, so I rocked him to sleep. When I went to lay him down he just screamed at the top of his lungs. It was super frustrating, and I hate feeling like I’m getting upset with him over things he can’t control. I do want another baby, but if I’m acting like this, am I really fit to do it again? Does this happen to all parents? I don’t hit him or scream in his face or anything, but I just get to my wits end when he screams over random things. I just wonder how parents with multiple kids do it over and over again without going nuts.

Feral children

Anyone else have children that usually get along really well and are generally well behaved have had their kids turn feral this summer? Just me? Literally fighting over a plastic fish. They are 8. EIGHT. AKA, way too damn old to fight about a plastic fish. I am so tired of being a referee to constant squabbling. Ughhhhhhh.

How much do you work on learning over summer break? Wondering if we do too much?

My daughter is 6 and will be going into 1st grade. I stay home with her so she doesn’t do any daycare during the summer. Usually I have her read for 30 mins a day(since she’s just learning typically that means she reads 1-2 books out loud to me per day), write for 15 mins in a journal and do 15 mins of math work(addition,subtraction, reading time and counting money). I also have her do at least 30 mins of creativity time (crafts,coloring,playdough,etc) so it’s about a hour and a half a day total. The rest of the day is spent playing with friends outside, swimming, going to the park, going to gymnastics,mostly fun activities that she loves. She does get about a hour of electronics a day(sometimes more if the weather is too hot or it’s raining). Anyways is this too much learning time a day. She says none of her friends have to learn(which is probably true they are outside from 8am-8pm and only go in to eat!). Am I being to strict? What do you do?

Question on the 4 month regression (for parents that have already gone through it)

My baby is 2 months old so I have a ways to go but I was doing some reading on it. I read that how you get your baby to sleep during this regression is how you’ll forever have to put them to sleep! Is this true? Has anyone rocked(or something else) their baby to sleep through this and now have to rock them to sleep every night AND/OR every rem cycle through the night? I find it hard this is the moment that alters the way our babies sleep forever!