Parenting Contents Archive

What is "grandparent age" for yall?

Might be a weird question lol. I was talking to a friend, and mentioned my parents ages. She seemed absolutely gobsmacked that they were grandparents in their early forties? Their first grandchild was born when they were forty one. She seemed to be really taken aback by it. Like they were way too young. I prefer young grandparents, as someone who had a set of both. Anyway, whats the correct "grandparent age" for yall? How old were your parents when their first grandchild was born??

Wife wants to leave family Christmas Eve celebration if anyone has a sniffle

I totally get where she is coming from and I probably won’t fight her on it because we have a little baby 8month. Just the thought of showing up to my dads, hearing someone with a sniff and having to leave is depressing. Anyone else dealing with this? Edit:just to be clear, the wife is worried more about the omicron variant which apparently presents cold like symptoms

Pfizer’s 2 dose COVID vaccine for kids aged 2-4 fails clinical trials.

In response to yesterday’s question on the timeline for vaccinating kids under 5. It looks to be delayed yet again. https://www.reuters.com/business/healthcare-pharmaceuticals/pfizer-test-additional-third-dose-covid-19-vaccine-trial-children-2021-12-17/

My 12 year old serving his teacher a bit of oof. For the holidays

Content warning: parental loss My 11 year old has lost both of his grandparents. One of his assignments for winter break was to take a photo of yourself reading with your grandparents. My son lost both at a young age, the surviving grandparents are estranged, due to our lifestyle. We’re ok with it. He was upset over the assignment, but, has found a way to bring awareness to the assignment, and to his teacher, that not all of us are alike. My son has decided to take a picture with his grandmas urn. “I want to make her feel really bad about giving us this assignment” While many of our children are able to have grandparents and visit them, not everyone has a grandparent, I’m glad my kid is taking this with a sense of humor, and making light of the situation…….. TL;DR CW: parent loss My sons teacher assigned him Christmas break to read to his grandparents, both are dead. He’s taking a picture with their urn.

Budgeting realistically with a family

My husband and i both work. We have pretty modest expenses that included daycare for one and soon to be two kids. He wants me to budget 1000 for all the groceries to feed four which includes formula for one, my own weekly gas, dr appts, and the miriad of incidentals that come up a monthly basis. Does this seem feasible? My groceries cost 150 - 200 a week and gas somewhere between 50-100 depending on where I go. As for incidentals it seems like i always need to run out for something for a recipe or makeup/skincare i need to restock. My son's exercize program at preschool. Im having a hard time staying under 1k and end up needing to borrow money from our main pool. I do like to buy organic if possible and we also drink wine and beer weekly so that factors in. Tips for spending less? I feel like im just terrible at understanding how to budget myself. Shouldnt 1k a month be enough?

Dad Appreciation Post

To all the dads out there, have a great Christmas and new year! Without getting too political, I just feel like there’s not enough appreciation going on so I’ll have a beer tonight to you all. My little one is 6 months soon and she makes my world complete. Grinding at life to put food on the table makes it all worth it to see her face at the end of the day. Keep dadding!!

My dad died.

Not necessarily a baby post but this is the only place I feel comfortable on this app. My dad overdosed last night and I’m not even upset. I hated him and we were never close at any point in my life. I honestly feel worse for not being upset. He lived with my grandpa and I’m pretty sure he found him. My little brother is upset too. My grandpas birthday is next week on top of Christmas so the funeral has to be on or around one of two very important days to me and my family. I’m 7 months pregnant and have had blood pressure issues on top of this. I don’t know what to do. I obviously want to be there for my family but I don’t want to be condemned for not being sad. Im being as sensitive to their feelings as I can but I can’t make myself feel something that I just don’t feel. I’m more angry than anything. I don’t know if it just hasn’t hit me yet or if it will at all. All I know is I don’t want to be painted as a terrible person for not feeling sad over a person I hated.

Nuk sippy cups

Hi, everyone. I need some help. My son, who's autistic will only use a certain type sippy cup, Nuk sip and smile. They discontinued them, a few years back and came out with a newer, shorter, triangled nipple. The older ones are longer and more rounded. I have pictures if anyone wants to see. But I was wondering if anyone happened to have one? Maybe boxed up? I would love to take it off your hands. Thank you.

Can little babies have nightmares?

My son was born 28 weeks. He's 3 months now. He sleeps well but I noticed a couple times he seemed distressed in his sleep but not waking up like he was having a nightmare. When I looked it up I got mixed answers saying not until they're older and some saying yes it's possible.

Losing my shit

I have a 2 1/2 year old boy and a 5 1/2 month old boy. Mom works all day and I stay home. She has no idea how hard my day is and doesn't seem to care about me struggling. The smallest never stops crying and the 2yr old just wants to get into everything doesn't listen for shit and is aggressive af. I don't believe in hitting but time outs he loves and doesn't wanna leave so I'm stuck. The crying infant would be enough to drive me crazy but two is seriously about to cause a mentle break down. Any advice would be appreciated. I just don't know how much more I can take.

What do you do when your family are antivaxx and COVID deniers?

My husband’s entire family are COVID deniers and antivaxx. They are currently doing international travel and attending huge gatherings (sporting events, music festivals, etc). I have a sibling who is a COVID denier as well, but he is not doing those things (because he didn’t do them anyway). Where do I draw the line? My husband’s family is angry because I don’t want to be around them, but I am okay with seeing my brother. To me, there is a huge difference. Also, I can only control my husband so much in regards to seeing his family. What can I even do about this?

How Many Outfits?

Husband and I are having a debate over how many baby clothes is too many baby clothes.😂 Curious to see how others decide what the ideal number is for each stage? 1) how many sleep and play suits? 2) how many onesies? 3) how many pairs of pants? 4) how many accessories (hats, gloves, vests, jackets)?

Empathy in toddlers-when is this supposed to emerge?

I have a 25 month old daughter and she didn’t realize children were supposed to be showing empathy already. Can anyone elaborate? Are they really? She’s possibly shown it a *few* times but I’m not sure. One time at 22 months my sister was fake crying at my daughter and my daughter started wailing (we don’t do this anymore obviously because I don’t want to mess with her emotions)….she also used come kiss my boo boos if I told her I got hurt but now she just screams NOOOOO at me (well at everything these days). If other kids are crying she will stop and look at me and point, so I will explain to her that they are just sad and it’s okay to be sad. Does any of this sound okay? I keep hearing about kids her age who will see their parents crying and will say “don’t cry mommy”….I guess Mine can’t speak that well yet so she definitely can’t say that. If anyone has any insight I’m curious!

Kids opening all their gifts at once vs Kids taking turns opening them up?

So I decided to forgo gift wrap all together this year and decided to only use re-usable gifts bags. Anyway, so I usually film my kids opening gifts and we would all take turns as I'd film each person opening their gift. This year I am debating on filming one person at a time just opening all their gifts at once. Kind of like how you watch someone open gifts on their birthday's and everyone is focused on them. I just feel like when I film everyone taking turns normally they feel rushed to open stuff so the next person can go. \*And yes I realize this whole post is too deep for the context but am just curious on what others do\*

Nervous about my child and Covid

I just signed my 5 year old up for a covid shot. I’m a little nervous. I did listen to some crazy stuff about myocarditis, and I’m not sure what to think. I am not an antivaxxer. I have my booster scheduled for next week. Little child is fully vaxxed with everything. It’s just the covid vax I’m nervous about. He’s so small and has a whole life to lead. Honestly, I don’t care about ‘the community’. I only care about my child. With all the back and forth, I’ve decided to get him at least a first shot of the covid vaccine. But yes, I am still nervous. Gah, sorry for that useless rant…