Parenting Contents Archive

Be aware of the bandaids that are put on after babies shots. . .

My baby just had his 1 Year check up this morning & got 3 shots, 2 in one thigh and 1 on the other. They put 2 bandaids on afterwords over the shot area. My baby fell asleep on the way home so I laid him down in his gated area on the floor & I'm doing things around the house. I hear him gagging so I ran in, picked him up and out popped the bandaid from his leg. He had woke up without me hearing and started playing with his bus, I assume he noticed the bandaid on his leg and pulled it off and ate it. I was shaking, I can't believe that happened. It never occurred to me that he would take that off and try to eat it. I'm so lucky it came right back out fully intact, I ripped the other one off and I am never doing bandaids again. I'm just sharing for other moms to be mindful of that because it's never crossed my mind before.

Sweet, Sweet Irony

When you level up by shredding all of your years’ old court documents and documentation of drug use and domestic violence by your ex-husband to use as packing material for the upcoming move with your amazing current husband. Don’t mind me while I sit on top of this mountain looking down at him… 💅 👸 That’s it. That’s the post. (I still have everything accessible electronically.)

New low

Split with my husband last year and he returned to our home country leaving me to single parent two teens. Persuaded him to come back for some weeks so he could spend time with his kids. Today is kid one’s birthday so I came back to our house where he is staying (I have been making myself scarce). He uses the opportunity of my being around to shout and scream at me about how I am trying to bankrupt him with the divorce settlement. In front of the kids. On our kid’s birthday just as we are supposed to be giving them their gifts. The kids are supposed to go back to our home country with him next week for a few weeks. He was so unhinged that I am slightly worried for them. Ranting but also wondering if my fears are irrational. He has been emotionally abusive to me but never violent.

What to do with High needs baby all day

Have a 6 month old high needs baby. Constantly fussing all day. I try to entertain him but each activity only lasts 5-10mins before he starts screaming. We start by playing on his mat (toys,reading, talking to him, baby massage), then try the activity Center, going outside. Each activity he just gets bored with and gets upset. We’ve gone to local baby group but he ends up screaming more then half the time and me crying in the car ride home. I end up letting him watch mrs Rachel cause it’s the only thing that seems to make him somewhat happy. I don’t know what else to try as he just seems miserable most of the day.

When do you stop going into the doctor's office with your kids?

Kiddo is hitting early puberty in the early tweens. We went to the doctor today and after it struck me that I maybe should've given them some time alone to speak to the doctor privately about any questions or concerns. When is this supposed to happen? When do you just go full on sudoku-in-the-waiting-room? Honestly stumped by this one.

Guess how my day is going

Anyone know how to get an entire bottle’s worth of sunscreen out of the cushions of my couch?

Having hard time in my marriage

Hey Fellow moms! I am having hard time with my husband. We keep arguing about money, responsibilities and so on. I feel like I am gonna break up... I think about couple therapy or something. Maybe anyone has found any online solutions (apps, webinars, online consulting), which helped? Please share any thoughts!

my alcoholic dad is ruining my mom’s life

i don’t even know how to draft this properly. my dad is a lifelong alcoholic who hides, lies, doesn’t care, etc. he has become someone i can’t bring myself to want any kind of relationship with… yet my mom stays. maybe it’s love? i think it’s mostly fear of the unknown. i don’t know. i *do* know that she’s miserable. she should be enjoying grandmahood and instead she is constantly supervising my dad to make sure he isn’t bendering. just 6 weeks ago he was hospitalized with sudden transient amnesia from drinking too fucking much. now here he is, sneaking drinks again and acting dramatically insulted when my mom presses him. god, i hate him. i catch myself thinking he couldn’t die soon enough and how much better it would be for everybody. i’m not sure what i’m looking for here, just needed to get that off my chest.

Lunch Ideas

My 5 year old started a summer program and needs to bring lunch everyday. The issues I'm having is that everything has to be disposable so I'm not sure how to pack cold things. They're also nut free so it weeds out peanut butter sandwiches as well. Maybe I'm dumb but I'm drawing a huge blank.

Life isn’t stopping for me it seems

TW: mention of possible miscarriage We’ve been dealing with health stuff with my daughter (18 months), just moved to a new city, and found out I was pregnant. According to my calculations I should be 9 weeks pregnant. Went for my first US today and got told I am in fact measuring 6 weeks and they couldn’t find a heartbeat. I went to get blood work done to see if my levels are going up or down and my insurance for some reason wasn’t accepted and they sent me home and just told me what to look out for in case of miscarriage. I’m so sad, it’s just so much uncertainty. They were basically like “it could be fine, but idk”. I want this baby so bad. I’m genuinely heartbroken at the idea… did anyone else go through this and it turn out okay?

Why Are You the Bad Wife Today?

I'll go first. I didn't finish the laundry, which means husband (41m) didn't have clean undershirts to wear for work today. So now I am no longer doing his laundry. Just another thing that I suck at and will never get right. We've been together 17 years and I cannot seem to get this one thing right. Then he tells me that he offered to help! And he is right. He did ask me yesterday if I needed to switch over the laundry, to which I said no. So its my fault. I am the bad wife. I am home all day (I work 40+ hours from home) and it take 5 mins to throw some clothes in the washer/dryer. Why shouldn't I be able to complete all the laundry? And now he is pissed at me. According to him, I deflected and downplayed the situation and now he is pissed. I never accept responsibility and never ask for help. He offered help and I said no.

If only my husband knew how much worse things could be

He has it so good with me. I am loving and kind and patient and funny and quite practical. I don’t spend a lot of money. I put others first. I make all sorts of accommodations for him to follow his dreams. But he completely takes all of this for granted. Even when we were in therapy, the therapist told him, “your wife is great. She is so easy on you compared to other women that come in here.” She also said that he doesn’t seem to care about my happiness. It’s so difficult to stay positive and hopeful when your partner takes you so completely for granted. He is always trying to say I’m a hoarder because I hate that he throws away and donates shit when he gets sick of it. He thinks it’s ridiculous that I have a box of Easter stuff, for example. Or that I told him not to donate a duffel bag because we can still use it for packing. Called me a hoarder. If he only knew what hoarding behavior actually was!!!!! He just sucks the energy out of me. I want a partner, not whatever this is.

Im gonna start doing this to the rest of my family and friends to even out the playing field. Via dad_hard

I finally did it!

I finally did it. I told him it was over. After 16 years and 4 kids, I've reached the point of no return. I'm sick of his drinking and lying about our finances. Since the whole pandemic/confinement 💩 he's been drinking and lying. I don't recognize him anymore. He's been treating everyone like shit for the past few days. My final straw was this morning, when he admitted to me that he lied about putting 250$ aside for our girls birthdays... I have one turning 9 years old tomorrow and the baby of the family is turning 8 on Friday. He told me he didn't want to ruin the girls birthdays by him leaving.... Like WTF 🤷🏼‍♀️ he's all ready ruined what I had planned for them.... Now I'm broke, the girls have no cake or gifts ( thanks to him blowing out budget on god knows what) I have no clue WTF I'm going to do for their birthdays. I've been no contact with my super toxic family for 20 years.... Send me positive vibes!

"I didn't bombard you"

I'm telling you, that's what it felt like to me, it felt like you were bombarding me. Again he said, I wasn't bombarding you. I had to tell this fool (stbx) 3 motherfucking times that that is what it felt like to me before he finally changed the way he was fucking saying that to me. Then I get explosively angry because he isn't fucking listening to me, or diminishing the way I felt about something. And then *I'm the bad guy* for getting so angry. But he doesn't want to be disrespectful and has no idea what he's doing that makes me feel like that 🙄🙄🙄🤢 It makes me want to cry. I don't get any relief from the disrespect of men anywhere I go and I'm so so so fucking tired. Where's the nearest mommune?