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You are not a good dad if you traumatize your child’s mother

I don’t give a fuck what else you do for your kids. If you are emotionally destroying the mother of your children, you’re not a good father. You are robbing her of her ability to show up for her children. You are setting your children up for a lifetime of trying to emotionally fufilling their mother and having unhealthy romantic relationships. If your child’s mother says you’re hurting her, change it or get the fuck out and give her and your children a shot at a happy life. That’s all.

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The amount of posts about dysfunctional relationships on this sub is sad to see.

Especially when couples are doing great and then it all falls apart after the baby comes. I can't even imagine what that is like. As a dad, I can't imagine not giving a shit about my child, although it seems a lot of dads really don't care enough. I'm slowly understanding why people are always so shocked that I'm so involved with my newborn. I am still holding out hope that we just don't hear about the happy couples because they are doing their own thing, though. Also, being some time into having a newborn, I now have a newfound appreciation for single parents, which I'm sure will only grow over time.

Karma works very quickly sometimes.

Oh my god. This weekend my 10 year old wanted a game on his phone that he was too young for and was told no. Little terror then went and googled “how to delete parental controls” He followed the advice but didn’t manage to change those at all. He did however, manage to completely wipe his phone of absolutely everything. He’s really upset, and now cross with me because I can’t stop laughing and told him “well well well, if it isn’t the consequences of your own actions” 😂

They had me in the first half! 😂

Do the tiktok moms really have it all together?

I’ve been scrolling the tok. I see these beautiful stay at home moms with their beautiful houses, supportive husbands, children that aren’t screaming 24/7. They make their lives look perfect. Is it? If you’re that mom, do you struggle? I’m a 21 year old SAHM with a 13 month old. My husband works from home 14+ hours, so I barely see him. Everything that needs done in the house is on me because he’s always working. It feels like I live alone. I never wear makeup. My stupid college apartment never feels nice or clean. I don’t have designer everything. I don’t have the most expensive baby toys. My daughter barely eats meals and screams all the time. Tiktok is draining me. I’m so tired of seeing the perfect moms. And please. There’s nothing wrong with being *that* mom. I want to be *that* mom. Kudos to the moms that truly have their shit together. I’m not bashing them, I guess I’m just comparing myself too much and it’s making me really sad.

5 pt harness vs high back booster for 4 year old

Hi there, My 4 year old daughter is in 4K this year. They had a field trip today and asked parents to volunteer to drive (short 20 minute trip). I volunteered to drive and showed up early to move carseats and what not. I was observing other parents and it seems that I was the only parent there that still has their child in a 5 point harness. All of the other kids were using high back or backless boosters. She does meet the requirements to switch to a high back booster, but I wasn't in a rush to switch her. However, after seeing that she is the only one in the class, I am rethinking it. Are your 4 year olds in booster seats? Is the 5 point overkill at this point? Thanks, friends.

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What do you think about kids selling their toys?

I asked my 5 year old if it was okay if I donated his water table to a baby, and he said “when I sold my hotel toy, I got $10. Maybe I can sell it for $20.” So I posted it on marketplace and got $25 for it. I’m going to give him the money for his piggy bank. I think my only hesitance in this is that he’s not learning about giving, but I’m also impressed by his entrepreneurial spirit.

Play time!

My son is 4.5 months old and I am struggling trying to figure out how to “play” since he can’t sit up or crawl, etc. I am trying to work on rolling, but he absolutely hates tummy time.. (if it were up to him he would just have someone hold him standing on his legs all day lol) I feel like I run through the same toys/routine and we’re both getting bored.. would love to be able to go outside more but the rain and humidity and mosquitos and heat say otherwise.. so for now we’re stuck indoors. And I am at a loss. How do you all fill your 1.5/2 hour wake windows?

When do you give a toddler Tylenol for fever?

Title says it all. I’m hanging with my three year and she is in a decent mood. I am not sure giving Tylenol is great for them at this age and she is eating some popcorn and drinking milk. Fever is around 101 skin temp so I believe it is high-ish but she’s in great spirits and seems happy. Just looking for tips and when you guys medicate a fever. Whatever else you do other than giving them food they like and movies which is what I’m doing.

Spanking

Do you guys know people who spank their kids?? It absolutely blows my mind that spanking still exists. I was never spanked as a child but my husband was. It makes me sick to think about. He said his dad would take off his belt and crack it and then say “this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you.” Literally makes my stomach turn to knots. Obviously this goes without saying but my daughter and the future children I will hopefully have will never ever be spanked. I live in the south and know a good amount of people who still spank their kids. It just absolutely blows my mind. There are a million and one things wrong with it. I’ve never understand how hitting a child to “teach” them to stop hitting other kids makes sense.

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"School safe" snack ideas anyone?

So, most schools are nut free, as we all know. I'm down with it, so kids don't die and all. But My real struggle here is what to do with snacks. I got the kiddos in K and 3rd. They will NOT sit there and eat fruits and veggies for a snack (nor at mealtime, but that's another story). We want to be able to provide them with snacks that are at least downright terrible for their health, and try to avoid as much sugar, preservatives and food coloring as possible for their behavior. Now, if you're not going full produce here, there seems to be little in the way of "healthy" snacks that don't have some degree of nuts in them. The rest, we're in sugar/cookie/junk food town. Where's the happy medium here? Like where can we compromise with the health/junk factor and still be able to send it to school? Any brands, recipes, or even magic spells? You get bonus points if you have picky eaters too that you were able to crack the code on.