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When do you and your partner find the time for sex?

Hi everyone, my son is almost 10 weeks old and since his birth (I had c-section) my partner and I have been sexually intimate 3 times (x 2 oral before 6 weeks and had sex this week after restarting BC). I don’t feel “different” in terms of my sexual identity or touched out by breastfeeding, we just struggle to find the time! Our baby is very alert and fights naps during the day and his bedtime. We spend a lot of time holding and cajoling him. I spend a lot of time BF. He goes on his baby gym for 20 mins at a time but I find the thought of him suddenly crying for us when he’s had enough a bit off putting. I suppose I was wondering, for those of you who feel ready to be intimate again…how do you find the time!? Am I missing something?

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I couldn’t wait for baby to start solids

I was so stupid. I thought it will be so cute, she will be growing up! It’s stressful! We are doing baby led weaning and I am so scared of her choking, sometimes I find food she has stashed in her cheek an hour after eating! And now I gotta get up in the mornings and figure out what the heck to give this kid, 2-3 times a day??!! I mean I make food and freeze it but I’m sure she gets tired of it. I’m scared she won’t be ready to switch to mainly solids by 12 months. And water! Everyone soaking wet, and If I let her she will drink enough water to make herself throw up. Those bandana bibs are so cute! And useless! And don’t even get me started on the poop. But she is super cute with her face full of yogurt.

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Getting scared

I’m due to give birth soon and have been obsessively reading parenting subs etc. However it has completely and utterly freaked me out to the point I no longer want to be a mum. The words I see all the time are stressful, tiring, exhausting, relentless, intense, hard af. I just don’t think I’m cut out for all the work (mental and physical). Anyone relate?

Daycare closed all week!

So we live up in the Pacific northwest and got a little snow. A little. Less than a foot. And daycare is closed all week. I guess growing up in the northeast, we'd get snow, it would get plowed and you would just go to work. Love my kid amd really enjoying getting to hang out with him all week but need to get this daycare back open again so I cam get back to work too!

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What has your child done that had made you smile this week?

Let's share some of the positive parenting stories! My baby has just learnt how to push up into a sitting position from crawling. Now he sits up and shouts until we see him and tell him how proud we are of him. Bless the wee thing, he's so proud of himself for figuring it put. My 2.5 year old is SO excited that we got a new oven after our last one gave up. Now every time someone comes into the house (including my hubby every day when he gets home from work), she points at the oven - 'look we got a new oven for me'. It's adorable

Terrified. Enlarged armpit

BroMos, this is my throwaway. I am in need of some support. Last year after my second Moderna my armpit enlarged to a grapefruit. It didn’t go down for a month. I got a mammo and all was well. It’s been almost a year and I’ve been to so many doctors who all say “just keep an eye on it” I finally got fed up and said enough is enough. I’m tired of keeping an eye on it. My doctor said ok and ordered another mamo and sonogram. I’m so scared. Nothing online says this is going to be ok- or even could me ok. Please send me some health vibes, please tell me it’s going to be ok.

How messy is *too* messy? (8 y/o)

My 8 year old’s bedroom drives me nuts sometimes. There are certain things I expect her to do daily - make her bed, put her dirty clothes in the hamper, etc. I gave her some clear bins to store toys in under her bed so that she doesn’t clutter her dresser. I really try to give her all the tools she needs to maintain a reasonable room. Yet…she has this way of still making everything super cluttered. Her dresser always has stuff on it. I’m always finding tags and papers and other random odds and ends on the ground, no matter how many times “we” pick them up. I know it’s not realistic for her room to be “spotless”, I just don’t know how she can be in there and not feel anxious from the chaos. She seems indifferent about it. So I want to know …Do you take a step back and let your kids’ room be? What is your approach to room cleaning/maintenance?

Are you even a parent if you haven’t used the bathroom while holding your child?

You gotta do what you gotta do sometimes.

Some people cannot see beyond themselves

My husband and I were recently gifted a few thousand dollars. When we found out, the ***first thing*** out of his mouth is to excitedly tell me how he will be able to use ALL the money in ONE shot for something for his hobby. Looking at his face, his mind was 100% made up about what that money would be for. This example isn’t what he picked, but the usefulness and value are identical to his hobby: “oh wow! 3 grand will buy me that power up in candy crush! I finally have the money to do it!” I turned to look at him and wanted to shake him, he was totally oblivious to everything around him. The best part? *Someone else recorded it because it was during gift time on Christmas*. I could have thrown myself off a bridge. So fucking embarrassed.

Childcare

I’m sure there are plenty of posts about this already but I need to spit it out before I explode with sadness. How in the world do people afford childcare in the U.S.?! It’s almost double our mortgage. And we’re pregnant again so it will only increase. I mean from the beginning it’s like we’re being punished. 1. Sucky maternity leave policies (unpaid or 6 weeks of 60% of pay in GA IF you have a ST disability plan) 2. Insurance deductibles for prenatal care and delivery 3. Adding kids to insurance = significantly increasing monthly premiums 4. Then…childcare costs. (And I completely understand why nanny’s and daycare’s have to charge what they do, they have to make a living too!) 5. Work all day and then spend two hours with baby before they fall asleep…then eat/clean/try to talk to spouse before falling asleep. Repeat. What an exhausting hamster wheel. Am I missing something? How do people make these things work? I’m losing it…😭

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What are some ways I can help my 8yo improve focus and attention?

My daughter is in 3rd grade and struggling a bit in school. She gets in trouble for talking in class, and gets low math scores. I believe her problem is a lack of ability to focus. Not in the ADHD sense, she’s just scattered and easily distracted. When I get her to focus on a math problem, she can do it, but left to her own devices, she would never finish her homework. Are there some good ways to help her develop focus?