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Nursing =/= Maternity

Tiny rant: I would like to search websites for nursing clothes ONLY! Not maternity. I have no bump (well, I’m still cultivating my ‘I’m breastfeeding and need to eat ice cream to keep my energy up’ bump). Nursing. I need boob access. I need panels. I need something to stop my tit flopping out when he unlatches tries to leap out of my arms. I also need it to not cost my entire SMP for the month. Please, let me search your website. I’ve been trapped under this baby for 4 months now and need something to wear out in public. That is all.

Super torn on whether to tell my kid they’ve done a “good job”

There’s this idea that if you tell your kid you’re proud of them or that they did well (at something) they will become approval addicts, people pleasers, etc. We ultimately want them to do things THEY want to do and take pride in a job well done instead of doing things for us in search of OUR praise. So instead of telling them “Good job!” or “I’m so proud” it would be “Wow, you’re worked so hard on this!", "You must be so proud of yourself!" But at the same time, I feel like my parents never told me they were proud of me and I feel like I’d like hearing that from them. What are your thoughts? Any studies on parenting one way or the other (if it's even possible to study something like this)?

Board games for 4-5 year old?

Our daughter will turn 5 next month. In the past, board games haven’t really hooked her and pieces have always gotten lost. Any recommendations that would be fun for 3 people?

This might be a stupid question, but when you let your infant (over 6 months, under a year) drink water, does it have to be baby water?

or is that just for mixing formula? I definitely wouldn't give my LO the tap water in my area, but could be drink purified bottled water that isn't baby water? I tried googling this but it really only told me about what water to use for formula. My LO is 7 months and I wanted to introduce a sippy cup with water while he eats his purees

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Please someone tell me this c-section pain gets better!

Had a c-section on the 6th and just got discharged from hospital today! I'm so grateful to be able to recover at home and having my sweet little baby in my arms makes it all worth it! I just hope this pain goes away and I can walk and play with my baby one day.

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He’s clueless

Tell me please how a husband who is great in so many ways can also be so clueless in others. My husband’s family is coming over in less than an hour and I’ve spent the whole day cleaning while he slept in. For his family. Who I bought Christmas gifts for with no help from him (we haven’t gotten to exchange gifts yet so that’s what we are doing today). And I asked him how to spell his nieces’ names for the gift tags and HE HAD NO CLUE

My daycare is closed,friend is helping but what is fair rate for one month?

My 4 year old sons inhome daycare needs to close for a month because of surgery. Luckily, my close friend is a stay at home mom with a 4 year son as well! So she has agreed to watch him for the next 4 weeks while I go to work. I am full time Monday to Friday 8-4, I will be packing my son with food for the day, clothes, everything appropriately needed for day to day. From your guys’ experience what is a fair, reasonable rate? Mind you we are very close friends so I know she won’t be expecting “a lot.” But she’s definitely doing me a HUGE favor. Also- I live in Canada and I’m a single parent where I do get subsidy every month to help with daycare cost. So I’m already not paying a huge amount to begin with. And when my mom has days off during the week she said she will also help to give my girlfriend a break. Thanks for the advice!

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Co sleeping at 4+

My daughter still sleeps with me every night. She is 4.5 and I split with her dad just before her 4th birthday. I started letting her spend the night with me after she returned from her dads (we split it 4 nights with me and 3 with him a week). I let her spend the first night she returned from her dads In my bed as she was often a bit needy/lost due to the sudden change. This progressed to her spending every night with me and I’ve since learnt she has requested to do the same at her dads. I have absolutely no issue with sharing a bed with her and I believe her dad feels the same how ever I’m wondering if I need to reinforce independence to prevent issues in the future or if we can continue to ‘co-sleep' until she says she would like to do otherwise? Am I making a rod for my own back? Just to add there are no other children or partners involved at this time and she has a room of her own at both mine and her dads house.

When to start sign language?

Any good resources on teaching some sign language to babies? Baby is about to hit 4 months and his communication skills are growing quickly! He has become quite vocal! He reaches for things, he recognizes his bottles (reaches for them and opens WIDE), and he watches everything we do. When should we start teaching him some sign language? I remember my sister teaching my niece, but that was some 11 years ago…

baby just doesn't want to eat. no milk, no solids

It's been over a month, my baby is 6 months old now, I think I started around 5 months but he barely eats. Takes him all day to finish 5oz bottle milk, daytime he will have around 10oz total and 5 more at night. Just started solids not too long ago but that too he takes a couple of bites every time and he is done. It's not normal. Up to 5 months he was eating a lot a lot milk I couldn't keep up. Its not because of solids because he started to not eat before. Now I barely have milk and still enough. Im so stressed every time I'm trying to feed him. I offer milk all the time and solids 3 times a day. He is a very happy boy always smiling and playing. I just don't understand how can he be doing ok on so little. Oh he dropped in both height and weight percentiles last time we went to the pediatrician Anyone had similar experience?

Please stop asking people with one child when they’re going to have another.

Some people are one and done for financial reasons. Some people have difficult jobs and maybe don’t think they can parent more than one child effectively. Or maybe, like me, they physically can’t carry another child. I planned for a second baby. I wanted a second baby. But my body decided that wasn’t possible. Yes, I’m absolutely sure I can’t carry another one, because I don’t want to die. Yes, I’ve considered adoption, but decided ultimately not to proceed. Yes, it’s sad. It is what it is, I’ve moved on with my life. This is a conversation that I’ve had *countless* times with friends, family members, and even complete strangers, 100% against my will. And every time I’m forced to have this conversation, it makes me cry. Please stop asking people if they’re going to have another!