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Today I was the minority at the park.

Took my kids to the park today and I was the only mom there. There were dads chatting about this and that. I was completely ignored. I already felt bad for dad's alone at the park, but now I feel extra bad. It must really suck to go out only to be ignored.

I Don’t Need a “Break” From My Newborn

I’m so sick of being offered a “break.” I’m so sick of other people asking to take my daughter under the guise of “giving me a break” because then I look like a b*tch if I say no. I know that my family isn’t doing it out of malicious intent, but I’m so sick of visitors. I’m so sick of the begging for pics and updates every day. I’m a month postpartum and it feels like I’ve barely gotten to spend any one-on-one time with my baby. Everyone keeps warning me about PPD and PPA but nobody seems to realize the complete lack of privacy and constant asking for the baby feels like it’s pushing me there. I just want to hold my baby. I want to learn how to operate when it’s just me and her. I want to cuddle with her on the couch and watch something funny and not have to answer a million questions about my labor and her birth weight and everything else. I don’t want a break FROM my baby, I want a break WITH my baby.

Wholesome school bus experience

My son is on the spectrum. All year long, he rode bus #37. He is fixated on that number. He says "hi bus 37!" in the morning and "bye bye bus 37!" in the afternoon. Yesterday, I guess bus 37 had to get serviced. He was taken home by bus 44. He apparently had a bit of a meltdown about it. Today, bus 37 is apparently still out of commission. 44 picked him up again. But in addition to the 44 on the front of the bus, they added a big 37 sticker to the side, just for him. He seemed very happy with that compromise.

daycare starting age for infant

I am planning to go back to work when my baby is 1. She is currently 6 months old and I've started looking at daycares. I just had a daycare call me back and basically say that I should start her as early as possible because if I wait until 1, that would be traumatic. Is starting daycare at 1 traumatic? Ideally, I was thinking about having a couple weeks to a month to transition my baby to full time daycare in fall, but should I be starting now?? Scientific based information would be nice, but I also appreciate personal experience on this topic.

When did your child lose their first tooth?

My son is a few weeks away from turning 6 and hasn't lost any teeth. None are even wiggly. He has some dental work coming up and I'm just debating if I should wait to see if he loses the tooth. It is one of the front 4. When did your child lose their first teeth?

Random people touching baby.

Why do some people think it's okay to just grab someone's baby?! I was at the store pushing LO in her stroller and looking at something on the shelf and I see someone in the corner of my eye and I look over and the guy is just grabbing and waving my LOs hand. Like wtf? I told him don't touch her and he was just like, oh, sorry. No. It's not okay. I didn't think I'd have to tell an adult not to grab a strangers baby, but here i am making a post about it.. I wish I would have told him off, but I just wanted to get away from him and clean her hand.

Do i just give up and go to the ER at this point?

I have post partum depression and anxiety and i constantly feel like I'm dying. It ebbs and flows sometimes into a full blown panic attack but it's quiet right now. I was suppose to have an appointment with my PCP and she's apparently out for the next two weeks. They tried to call me yesterday but I guess I never got the call. I dragged a toddler and a newborn to the doctor for nothing. My issue is that I'm not in a crisis situation right now but I don't think i can wait two weeks to get any sort of help. I'm trying to prevent a crisis. Do i just give up and go to the ER and hope they won't just refer me to my PCP and won't put me on a 72 hour hold? Can you go to a walk in for psychiatric stuff? I hate everything.

Cut baby’s finger while clipping

I accidentally cut my babies finger while clipping her nails, the bleeding has stopped but there’s a big chunk out of it and I’m worried, does this look bad enough to go to the ER? Has this happened to anyone else and did it leave a scar? I feel so guilty I’m scream crying

5 yr old has mumps should I be worried for my 4 month old baby?

My 5-year-old didn't have a fever and her cheeks began to swell today. They're very close and always share hugs and kisses. Though I've read that mumps rarely affects babies under a year old, I still want to ask if there is another parent whose child, less than 6 mos or less than a year got the mumps? Just curious whether it's truly that unusual. I just wanted to feel at ease because I'm extremely worried about my 4-month-old baby. Btw baby is ebf if that info is needed.

What is your kids song?

I feel like you often hear stories of kids (babies especially) latching on a particular song and it being a huge source of comfort. My son has a song called [Cuatro Vientos](https://open.spotify.com/track/0uq0ibSGT4AwiVLLZGs9Qm?si=m4g5bxNPR1-CIBxlnr-32g&context=spotify%3Asearch) that he absolutely loves and even if he is screaming in the car, it without fail calms him every-time. What’s your baby/kids song?

on the brink of ruin UPDATE

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/11c3cj6/on_the_brink_of_ruin/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1 I went on leave from work in March, got my baby into daycare, and my divorce was finalized. I’m still having a hard time staying positive but the load is so much lighter. I wanted to thank everyone for the support and especially those who suggested leave! I didn’t feel I deserved it for some reason, and it wasn’t easy to get, but I’m so glad I went for it.

What are my options if I don’t want to parent my kids anymore but the father wants me to?

Title. I am depressed. I am a sufferer of ptsd and ppd. I am tired. I mentally do not think I can do this but he insists I just need to get help for the ppd and then I will feel better. We planned this baby. We got the gender we wanted, we were excited at the hospital together, and now I want to bail. I don’t want to die but I feel like I have to if my sons father is telling me to parent. He said he doesn’t want to do this with anyone else and needs me to get it together, which I don’t think I’m even capable of doing. Right now all I’m thinking about is cutting myself or killing myself. I am worthless. I am a terrible mom which is why I don’t want to be a mom anymore. Can I sign my rights to dad even if he doesn’t want sole custody?

Book recommendations for spirited toddlers

My LO is about to turn 12 mo old. She has been having toddler-like meltdowns since 9 mo old (throwing herself backwards, shrieking when she doesn’t get what she wants or has to go through a small disturbance she doesn’t like). She has a good disposition overall but is both sensitive to small stimuli and intense in her reactions. I’m looking for book recommendations so that I can start reading up on how to address this behavior as she becomes a toddler. I’m trying to be mindful about regulating my own emotions and responding instead of reacting, but I feel like it would be helpful to have more practical techniques and just a helpful frame of mind to be in. I don’t want to squash her spiritedness with negativity but it’s also challenging. (Also, we should have seen this coming when 4 different NICU nurses told us she “knows what she likes and doesn’t like” as she was pushing away their hands and yanking the tubes off her face as a premie lol.)

Just need to vent for a minute

My son is in 2 different therapy's right now and the session's themselves go great but when it's time to leave it's just full blown meltdown. And I can't help but feel embarrassed trying to pull a screaming child out of the building and into the car. Today just kind of broke me and just feel a little defeated

My 18 month old exactly 10 minutes after I wake up an hour earlier than he usually does so I can get some stuff done