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To the moms who got their sexy back…

How?? I am 10 months postpartum and still feel like a sack of potatoes. Even if I “put the effort”, I feel “pretty” at best. But never sexy, never desirable. I used to be able to feel sexy and seductive and now if I even try I just feel awkward, uncomfortable, and stupid. It’s like I’ve completely forgotten how to be sexy. I can’t even dance sexy like I used to. Or at all. Just awkward shuffling with a slight bounce side to side. Please help :(.

Maybe I’m being a bitch (you can tell me if I am)

So my husband got tickets to a concert. I was just on the phone with him and he told me these tickets were super expensive, front row and my gift for Mother’s Day. He hadn’t told me any of this before. The problem is I don’t even know this band but I know he likes them or is at least interested in them. I reacted pretty shocked when he just told me this and I was just kind of like… I don’t even know any of their songs. I’m very annoyed that is my Mother’s Day gift. Im not going to act like I’m angry because I don’t want to seem ungrateful or start a fight. I dunno, would you be annoyed?

How best to have "a talk" with a 4 year old.

Hey so I don't know if this is a taboo or touchy subject but I need some good evidence based advice on how to talk (or maybe not talk!?) to my daughter about masterbation. Important to note she is only nearly 4yo. She does it to sooth when she is tired and having down time while playing or watching TV, sort of humping the floor. I want to teach her in a supportive non-harmful way that she needs to do this in private. So far Ive told her that its fine she does that but she shouldbt do it when anyone else is around as its private. And I suggest she goes to have some alone time upstairs if she wants. She always declines but then carries on. She's starting school soon. Other family members are starting to notice. My instinct is that she's a kid and its normal and doesn't matter... but someone needs to guide her to understand hers and other peoples boundaries right? Is there a good place to find advice on this?

Would you take candy from a stranger?

Bromos, tell me if I’m being crazy. Every year, I’m so saddened by how many mom’s feel unseen on Mother’s Day. I have.. a literal mountain of Lindy chocolate. I was thinking of putting 2 in a small bag with a note/sticker. Something cute like I SEE YOU, YOURE AN AWESOME MOM. or KICK ASS MOM or MOM! Like in a classic heart? I don’t know, I haven’t figured out the last bit. Then, I was just gonna hand them out to random moms. Many I know, at pickup for kiddo’s school, but also just moms. Happy Mother’s Day! Here is some sugar and a sticker. Is this crazy?

For those who co sleep.. are you really getting a good sleep?

A lot of people told me that they co sleep because they find it’s the only way they get sleep. My daughter been a bit difficult in the sleep department , so we’ve decided to take a break from sleep training and just accept the fact that she wants to sleep beside me every night ..🙃 on top of me I may add lol. Buttt I’m actually not getting that “good sleep” that everyone told me I would get. My daughter moves around a lot in her sleep, she’s 7 months old and I feel like she can beat me up in her sleep if she wanted to lol. We are going to go back to sleep training, I need to mentally prepare for it but in the mean time she’s in our bed. But seriously , are you really getting a good night rest?

AD - sometimes it's challenging to keep kids entertained, especially when the weather is more changeable than their moods, that's why a screen can be a useful tool that we all use to stem the boredom. But I don't want them to stare endlessly at nonsense, so I came up with a game that got them up, moving and thinking whilst still letting them think it was screen time. Thanks to the Google pixel Macro Focus, you can see things you can't with the naked eye and this got me thinking.....What about if I challenged them to take photos of things up close and then get their sisters to find out what the photos are of? Seemed like a mad idea, but they loved it! That's another 45 minutes ticked off until the return to school! (Be honest would you have got the cooker clock one?) #teampixel #macrofocus #upcloseandpersonal #killingtime #fatherofdaughters #dadlife #fod

Am I the only one that isn't so jazzed about the content of Nursery Rhymes?

I am just a little taken aback now that I'm listening to nursery rhymes as an adult. I know some of them are old, and I'm hearing them in a new light, and some are new, but still seem off to me. Examples: Religious messages, blatant references to child abuse, animals being 'cut,' and most recently one that seems to imply that playing Xbox and reading comic books is as bad as lying. Idk, I guess I just wasn't expecting to be so put off by asking Alexa to play nursery rhymes.

Left over Easter eggs

Hypothetical question. A parent finds an Easter egg that is most likely forgotten a full month after Easter. Is that delicious chocolate egg fair game?

I have things to do but

These contact naps won’t last forever. My mom can hold her while she is awake so I can do chores. I’ve tried putting her down in the crib for naps doesn’t last. I’ve tried putting her on my bed doesn’t work. She sleeps best and longest on me during the day. At night she sleeps almost all night except for dream feeds. Some days I’m exhausted and want to be productive and can’t think about sitting down for 1:30-2 hours so she can sleep. But she will never be this small and want momma like this. My dogs get to cuddle with us too and yes momma sneaks a nap in but I sleep so light when I have her on my chest I wake up when she moves. I never saw my sister contact nap my nephew so I didn’t know contact naps were a thing till my little one came. I love them but hot damn I got things to do an empty water bottle and no more snacks.

Husband is leaving for 6 months

It’s our 2.5 year old’s third deployment and our 4 month old daughter’s first. We moved here during COVID so I never had the opportunity to make a lot of friends as I was a WFH employee in the beginning. I finally made three friends and 2 out of the 3 have moved and the remaining one moves this week. I’ll have a tantrum crazy toddler and a boob crazy infant for half a year by myself. It’s hitting me hard and I already feel like I’m drowning when he hasn’t even left yet. I know I ‘signed up’ for this life when we married, but damn, it doesn’t get any easier. He’ll be missing another Mother’s Day, another wedding anniversary, another Fourth of July, another Father’s Day, Halloween and celebrating his birthday with his family. Here’s to hoping these next six months go by quickly and he comes home safe.

getting outside with a baby

I'm on mat leave and my partner works, so baby is with me the whole day pretty much. I can't seem to leave the house for more than 30 min to an hour before my baby starts to fuss and cry, and it takes forever to calm him down. By the time he naps I feel so drained. And then he's awake again, 30 min later. At home he is fine, it's when he's in the stroller outside he struggles to settle down. Carrying/baby-wearing isn't an option because of back/joint pain. So when I do get out it's just a miserable time because the "mental health walk" consisted of trying to console the baby without the usual comforts of home. I can't even finish running my errands before he needs me! I'm so frusterated, he's just really wakeful these days and I'm kind of losing it. How do you guys manage? I need to get out for my sanity, I'm feeling really bitter and bummed out that I can't go out and see people or even finish grocery shopping before he starts up again.

Sick constantly since starting daycare

First time parent here, our son started daycare in February and since then my son, wife and I have been sick almost constantly. We all had Covid, then 2 or 3 head colds and now my son has conjunctivitis and a double ear infection. I went from almost never getting sick before daycare to being sick almost nonstop. Is this normal - any other parents experience this with their daycare? My wife and I are quickly running out of our PTO and it’s kind of embarrassing to always call out from work or miss out on seeing friends because we’re always sick.

Defining unique relationships

My mother passed away a few years ago and my dad has since remarried. I’m fond of his new wife and she has always been respectful of boundaries. She seems to genuinely care for my 7 month old son. It has me thinking of how we will define the relationship with him once he’s old enough to understand. She’s not grandma by any means, but ‘grandpa’s wife’ seems cold. Is anyone in a similar situation? How do you navigate this relationship? I want my son to know that my mom is his grandma even though she’s not with us, but I also don’t want to discredit my dad’s wife because she does care for him.

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Wondering what parents think.

I’m a stay at home father to my 2 almost 3 year old. I have been concerned lately with her and playing with me. Usually we played a lot and had a blast, but as of lately I will start to do dishes or laundry and she ask me to play so I’ll stop and come to play. She will start to play with me for 2-3 minutes then walks away to watch tv or look for something. Once she does this I’ll look at my phone or get back up to start work and when I do she stops me and ask me why I’m not playing and to come back. I don’t understand what to do or if she’s just tired of dad. What do you guys think?