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Daughter wants me "part of her world"

I picked up my 6 year old daughter from school today and she was telling me about her boyfriend. Its someone she's know since nursery, he is a year younger than her and wants to kiss her. She asked me not to tell anyone. We had a little chat where I pointed out a few things about boys and her agency about who she lets kiss her and more importantly not kiss her. I told her mother when we got home but asked her not to say anything but enquire softly. My wife is like a bull in a china shop so almost gave it away, my daughter said "Did daddy say anything to you?" and my wife said no, she is just chatting. Later I asked my daughter why she didn't want her mum or brother to know and she said she wanted "me to be part of her world". My heart melts Anyway, I have to find a 5 year old boy to discourage...

Why does my newborn want nothing more than to break her neck?!?

2w old and is constantly flailing it about. It takes 4 hands to burp her, otherwise she’s just leaning backwards and throwing her head back. Breastfeeding. Unlatches and throws her head around. Tummy time on my chest is the same thing. She’s determined. When do I have to stop preventing the head flinging injuries? When can they hold it up??

baby girl won’t be coming home with me

i (20F ftm) went into spontaneous labour at 33 weeks, baby girl was born at 33 weeks + 1 day on the 27th of june. the birth itself was actually a really good experience, i’m still unsure on why i went into labour early. she was born 1.920kg/4.233lbs and taken down to scbu after very brief skin to skin which was the best moment of my life, she’s doing well but just feeding through a tube in her nose, she is practicing latching a little but it’s hard and i have quite flat nipples but i’m pumping and expressing ok so far luckily. i’m being discharged tonight and i feel so lost not taking her home with me, she could be in here anywhere from 2-5 weeks. i feel like a failure this it hurts so much. i really wanted to ebf and wanted her close at all times i feel like i’m doing everything wrong and worry she doesn’t know who i am.

Breastmilk amount per bottle

Looking for research please! My in laws are driving me up a wall. My son is exclusively breastfed, I pump when I’m at work and nurse on demand when I’m home. When I’m at work (out of the house for 9 hours/ day) he consumes a 4oz bottle every 2-3.5 hours and averages about 12oz total when I’m gone. My MIL is saying we need to give him an 8oz bottle and feed less frequently. To me this is against every conversation I’ve ever had with my lactation consultant and his pediatrician, but my in laws are relentless. They’re very data driven people, so please help me out.

Teen lied to get present

How would you approach this? My teenage stepdaughter (15) lied big time and told a fabricated story that basically accused her mom and stepdad of psychological and emotional abuse. I won’t get into it because it’s very long but I fell for it and felt so bad for her that I bought her brand new AirPods…this was what she was wanting in telling her story. I later found out after talking with her mom a few months later that she lied and the story she said was just so that I would feel bad for her and get her the AirPods. I know I made a mistake. Now she’s telling her mom stories about me and her dad that are untrue…probably to get things. There is a lot more to this but my question is: Should I ask for the AirPods back to return even if they were a gift? Or just let it go and call it a lesson learned?

10wk Old Suddenly Trying to Nurse Mid Nap - Only Formula Fed

Hey friends, So about a week ago my 10wk old LO started rooting in his sleep while contact napping. He’d settle himself into my elbow then stay passed out. Nbd. Starting a couple days ago he started having a hard time with his morning 2 naps (usually 1:45 to 2 hours each). It’s common for me to have to resettle him between sleep cycles (not the weird part and totally developmentally normal). The weird part is he’s started rooting like crazy and trying to nurse, often getting frustrated when he’s met with only his hands or a paci. He’s not hungry - as it’s only 45 min into a nap and he had just taken down 5oz like a champ. He hasn’t been nursed since week 2. Anyone have any thoughts??

Baby leg slamming while sleeping

Both my kids began lifting both legs together and slamming them down repeatedly in their sleep around age 4 months. I assume they’re fast asleep and don’t rush to them while they’re at it but it seems so disruptive to their sleep. Tons of tummy time and play during the day so it’s not as if they’re immobilized and need to work it out at night or during naps. Does anyone know if there’s research out there on the purpose of this/why? I’ve asked friends and none mention observing it in their children which made a me a little concerned but maybe they just didn’t notice? I’d love to read more about it and have not been able to find any scholarly info on it but maybe I’m googling the wrong terms. Is there a scientific term for this?

Getting over the fear of my 11 month old choking

We have an 11 month old daughter who has choked 2-3 times already. And it scares the hell out of us to the point we don’t feed her as many solids as we should for the fear of her choking again. How can we teach her to chew more? We are both terrified, but we know it’s a hurdle we must overcome. We have a life vac and we know what to do in a choking event, but it’s just a fear of ours.

Any tips on getting baby to latch to your nip?

LO is 1week old and will only latch to nipple guard after fussing about for 5minutes. I’d love to hear experiences from you! Yes I will try to talk to a lactation consultant.

PPD and thinking about one more little

As a small back story, I had PPD with my first child, now 6. I really think I've been dealing with anxiety and/or depression since adolescence, nothing dangerous for lack of a better term, but was diagnosed after I brought up symptoms when my child was about 6 months. Further, my daughter was diagnosed with a cataract and had surgery at 7 weeks old. As I see it, we were struggling to adjust to new baby, her life long vision needs, but also his new healthcare career and the position he was in, he absolutely hated- like sick to his stomach when he had to go in. Things are great now, daughter is excellent and loves school, and vision is managed with glasses; husband is very happy with his current job, and I am taking meds and stable! Buuuuut we are considering a second baby. Any experience or info with PPD and how that all works with a new pregnancy? Obviously I'll be discussing with my Dr, but also wanted to know how it went with others.

Help! LO is soaking through her diapers overnight.

I am incredibly blessed that my 6 month old little girl is sleeping through the night from like 7pm-7am. Well… actually, she wakes up plays, babbles, and then goes back to sleep. But, she didn’t needs me so I let her play and then go back to sleep. The problem: she soaks through her diaper almost every morning. I cloth diaper during the day and use disposables overnight because she knows as soon as she is wet in cloth and does not tolerate it. She’s 28.5 inches long and 16lb 13 oz right now. I’m currently putting a size 4 overnight Honest brand diaper on her BACKWARDS. Why backwards? She’s a belly sleeper and a front pee-er which is worse when on her belly. It’s exhausting having to wash her sheet and mattress protector every morning. Please tell me your suggestions!

Anyone else feeling just plain, dumb…

I have a Masters degree and a great career in a big Organisation. I was so engaged in learning that I would read books everyday or articles or listen to podcasts or watch brainy shows. Then I had a baby. She is 8 weeks old and I love her to bits. But since she was born, I just feel like I am not …intelligent anymore. I am on maternity leave so I just spend all day with this tiny human who cannot talk back to me. The whole feeding, burping, changing, playing and then general chores around the house, groceries etc leaves no time to engage in any informative material in a meaningful way. I have this serious fear that I will miss out while the world around me moves ahead and never catch up to where I was before. 👀

Evenflo 360 in small car?

Does anyone have the 360 in a sedan? 😫 my LO is going to outgrow her infant car seat soon and would love to get the 360 but I’m not sure how much leg room my passengers will have, i have a Volkswagen Passat! My daughter is a chunky girl so I’m not interested in the slim! If anyone has any pictures of the 360 in their sedan please do drop them! I don’t have any friends who are moms yet and all the videos I’ve seen are in SUVs

"Aw he/she doesn't *look* tired!"

Am I crazy? Or does everyone else HATE when people say this? I'm sorry, but I'm a SAHM and I know my children. I know their schedule and when I need to offer a nap. They may not look tired to you, person who doesn't spend 24/7 with them, but it's time for them to sleep. Don't even get me started on how you're in their face getting them all excited while I'm wearing the baby trying to get her to nap. Sorry, just need to vent, so I don't shout at the next person who says this to me

Dropping to 1 nap at 12-13 months? Success stories pls

Baby girl just fell asleep so easily for her 1 afternoon nap. We skipped the morning nap because we’ve been having split nights…up at 4:30 this morning and didn’t go back down until after 6am, causing us both to sleep in quite a bit so 1 nap was the best option for today. I’m wondering if she is ready for 1 nap. The overnight wakings have been constant recently and it’s slowly killing me…it’s not like the newborn days where I could sit around and be a zombie. She needs her activities, enrichment, all her meals. Etc. Sometimes she isn’t going to sleep for that 2nd nap until 5 or 6pm which is also making for horribly late nights. Is 1 nap something we should try out and see how it goes? Does anyone else have experience with this adjustment at the 12-13 month mark? The literature says not before 14 months but all the other cues are there. Really leaning heavily towards trying 1 nap again tomorrow, especially if the night goes well tonight. TIA