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Just a little rant about people who have no expertise on vaccines but think they know everything…

Today we took my 2.5 year old to a local farm to meet some of the animals. She loved it, we were all having a great time and the lady who owns the farm was so nice and friendly! And then… she started talking about vaccines. She claimed that her dog got “doggy autism” from receiving too many immunizations at once. She started going on this crazy rant about how we should space out my daughter’s vaccine schedule (never happening) and how we should never let anyone come near her with an immunization if she so much has the sniffles. She has no medical expertise or background… just throwing around crazy claims. And the scary thing is there will be parents who believe her and fall for it…

Anyone interested in a sub like r/food, but for babies?

I hate watching BLW videos. I just want a subreddit like r/food, but only for baby meals. Just pictures, straight to the point. Love it. Would anyone else be interested in this? I made one called r/foodbutforbabies mostly because I'm out of ideas for what to feed my kid and I need *realistic* inspiration from strangers. I'm all for sharing the processed garbage meals I feed my kid, and I'd love to see what the bento moms have, too.

How do you correct a 3 year old without screaming?

My 3 year old is testing boundaries. I say no throwing and she throws her fork, so calmly say no fork for dinner eat with her fingers. Then she throws her drink and I say no throwing. Then she tries to push her entire plate off the table and the entire time she’s smiling and laughing and I very seriously and sternly “no throwing!” And she continued to push it. It results in me screaming at her to finally get any sort of remorseful sad response, otherwise just saying no she smiles and laughs at. Please be gentle. I don’t want to scream. I’m looking for solutions and telling me yelling isn’t the answer won’t help me.

7 yr old daughter is clingy with adult men.

I’m the father to two daughters, and my youngest (7yo) has this strange(to me) behaviour when I have my friends or family over that are 30+ yr old men. Normally she is very funny and jokey with everyone, and with me she’s always asked to jump on me and piggy back and what not. Just recently we had two of my wife’s cousins stay over night and she was physically all over them constantly hugging and holding on to them, very (jokingly) defiant when we asked her to give them space. She had never met them before but as soon as they walked in the door she asked them if they could pick her up. Her and I have a great relationship and she’s never experienced any sort of undue trauma at home. She’s always been like this to a degree with me and my wife but it’s very much extra recently, especially with adult men. Ask any clarifying questions you’d like, thanks in advance.

Anyone else get stressed out about the lack of alone time?

I do 98% of the child care. My husband works a trade job, 2nd shift and I'm a SAHM. I have 1 kid with issues with emotional regulation that we are working on with a child therapist and another who has sensory issues, so severe, that at 3 yrs old he's losing weight because they are overtaking his desire to eat (he's going to an intensive feeding clinic soon, he's been in OT for 2 yrs and it's not enough). I am NEVER alone. I deal with my kids issues by myself but never get any alone time to properly unwind, unless you count my weekly grocery shopping trip, which I kinda don't. I'm so fucking stressed. Sometimes, I just want to be alone. I've taken to locking the bathroom door just to go in peace and even then, they don't always let me. When do I get to be alone?

2 Door Cars- Am I Crazy?

Hi reddit! Give me a reality check. My husband and I are shopping for a new car and I fell in love with the 23 mini Cooper electric. It's a very small, two door car. We currently have one rear-facing 2 year old and are planning on baby #2 in about 18 months. I will be dropping the kiddos off at daycare every morning, so this car will be a daily kid car. Am I absolutely insane if we buy this car?

My cat annoys the shit out of me

I feel so terrible about it, but ever since our daughter was born 5 months ago, I feel like my cat is always in the way. He was my “baby” for a decade, and now I feel like he just annoys me most of the time. I still love him, but it’s just not the same. Has anyone else experienced this?

Ask a pediatrician!

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I fucked up

Whelp. I just quit my $160K job to be a sahm (with my husband's encouragement. He actually said it would make him feel so much better about having to get a job if it meant I could quit mine and stay home with our kids. Fucker) and now my husband is thinking about ending our marriage. He told me "shut the fuck up" in front of our kids today. On the way to my son's tae Kwon do demonstration. He told me his friends/family say I "drag him down", so rather than bite my fucking tongue I told him my friends/family say they think he's an emotionally abusive narcissist, and now he doesn't know if we can ever come back from this. I am so mad that I ever let myself believe he could be a real partner. I let myself be in a financially vulnerable situation because I really thought we were finally o. The same page and improving. We are both at fault for the rift, but God damn it I feel so fucking dumb right now. Literally my last day was yesterday. Fuck.

How to talk to kids about medical marijuana?

I have an elementary aged child and I got my medical card a few months ago. My child has learned a little about drugs in school but that's "don't do it" kind of information and teaching kids drugs are bad. I keep my medical marijuana use secret from him but I worry about him catching me and what I will say when it happens. I know I would want to stress that it is medicine for some people but is there more I should say? Does anyone know what words they would use to explain it to a child? I just want to have a plan in place in case he does find out somehow. The precautions I've been taking is never doing it when he's home or awake and I hide my weed and all weed accessories where he cannot reach/find them.

Mil issue

Since my baby has been born, I've been very protective (first time mom) and since then I've been disliking my MIL more and more everyday. I feel terrible but I'd be happy if I never got to be around her. Obviously that wouldn't happen as I'm v happy with my spouse.. :(

2 story house with newborn?

I'm 26 weeks FTM due in August. I've started thinking about making life as easy as possible with a newborn. One thing that keeps coming up is the fact that we're in a small 2-story house. My thoughts are, it would be really annoying if I kept having to go upstairs all day to the nursery for baby related tasks. And I'm not going to have the energy (or space in my arms arms) to be carting things up and down.. I'm thinking for convenience: - 2 x diaper change stations - 2 x bouncers (so I can put her down safely) - 2 x breast feeding caddies + Anything else you needed 2 of ? We have very limited space but I feel like it may be worth it? Is this necessary? Very interested on everyone's thoughts!

Flat head and feeling like a shit mom

I just noticed my 4 month old has a slight flat head, on the back of his head his right side is a little bit flat and when looking from above his right ear is slightly more forward then the left. Recently he has been sleeping more with his head turned to the right and I feel so bad I didnt turn him. I have been dealing with his eczema and food alergies for months and now this, I just wanna cry. I feel like its always something, every day theres something new to worry about. Im gonna ask his pediatrician about this but im super worried and sad.

My kids friends rarely ask for plans with my kids

My kids, 17(m) and 12(f) are good kids with friends. But we as parents often find ourselves working hard to help them make plans with other kids - like getting together in person. We have lots of activities at our house, and there are several other things to do in the area. My initial suspicion is that because these kids are connected online already, there is less of a desire to see each other in person. They've got plenty of "school" friends, and they're often texting them while at home. Just rarely get together in person. Curious to see if anyone else is experiencing this? Thx! This appears to be moreso since pandemic.

Extra Large play pen vs baby gates

Our baby is starting to crawl and my husband and I are debating which is the better: baby gates or one of those extra Large play pens? With baby gates we can cut off access to the kitchen. However our living space is connected to our dining room so we expect her to be wanting to crawl under the table, chairs, sideboard, etc. Or side board is from my late grandmother. It's old so I don't trust her near it. The large play pen was actually a cheaper option because of the type of baby gates we would need to use, but I also wonder if we she gets bigger we will just need to end up switching to baby gates. Right now she does not mind her pack and play but as she may not tolerate a big play pen as she gets older Some considerations: We are OAD parents so storage of things won't be necessary as we would either sell or donate after. We also have a cat, not sure if that plays in. Pros? Cons? Any opinions or experiences to share would be appreciated. TIA