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Thanksgiving canceled

I didn't know where else to post this. My whole family has been sick for almost two weeks. All the local immediate cares have had 4 hour waits all week. I finally got in yesterday and I have tonsillitis and an ear infection. My husband was up all last night with diarrhea, and our 3 year old has it too. She keeps saying her tummy hurts and only wants soup and ice pops. So we're at home. We canceled lunch with my family and dinner with his. I feel bummed. I like Thanksgiving, it's a big family meal and less expectations than Christmas. And my social toddler would have loved it. My parents have chickens and a play corner, and her cousin is going to be there. And my husband's parents are her favorite and she would have been able to snuggle and play with her other cousin and generally get doted on by all his relatives. At least I've been too sick to hype it up to her. Any support or commiseration would be nice.

Why do you think Dads are more involved these days?

I get comments from older women aaaaaaaallllllll the time about how great my husband is and how their husbands were never that involved when they had young children. “He changes nappies?!” “He knows when nap time is?!” “He’s at home with all the kids by himself?!” “He cleans?!” We think this is ridiculous, he’s just doing what I do too. All of our friends are the same and it’s really not a big deal. But it got me wondering, why such a shift? My husbands father is a bit useless to be honest, so I don’t think it was his good example. So if it wasn’t the example of the previous generations fathers, how come men are doing so well as fathers these days? Is it that women expected more?

Stinky hands

My 3 month old always has his hands in fists and loves to suck/chew on them. They always stink of cheese even when he's straight out of the bath, I wipe them with a cloth but before they have a chance to dry they're back in his mouth again. Is there anything I can do or is it time to embrace the cheese 🤢

Deadbolting house door

Partner keeps getting super frustrated that I’m dead bolting the doors in the house when I am home so our nearly 3.5 year old doesn’t end up out the front. We have been in the new town less than a month and she’s not a wanderer (has never gone out the front without us) but I don’t wanna risk it and would rather an extra 10-20 seconds. Not a busy neighbourhood. Partner came home early today and it was deadlocked as her and I were watching a movie. He tried to get her to unlock it (I was using the toilet less than a metre away). This evening I’ve asked him not to teach her this. He is frustrated over the locking. Apparently my reason of “all my siblings were found walking down the st when I was younger” isn’t a good enough reason. Help me convince him that it’s needed.

Antibiotics out-of-stock?

So...everyone I know right now seems to be running around with a sick kid. Zero Covid. It's flu A and a lot of bacterial stuff. Antiobiotics amoxi and augmentin are out of stock. Cephla and penicillin are being prescribed. Pharmacist says it's not covid worker shortage affecting supply-chain. How is it for you all? Is this world wide or just US?

DH put sugar in my coffee

Sweet, right? He sugared both mugs automatically, probably doesn’t even realize he sugared mine. Bromos, I have a 20lbs turkey, 1 gallon of gravy and a pie to finish, and the promise of coffee black and bitter as my soul was getting me through, except now my bitter is smoothed out and we’re out regular coffee. There’s enough pie on offer today I don’t need anymore sugar before lunch. Send black coffee! ☕️

Change my perspective, please

I just need some words of positivity because I feel like I’m doing it all on my own and it’s just not fulfilling for me It’s thanksgiving and my infant wakes up for the day at 4am. Tried to get him back to bed, did all the things - it wasn’t happening. So this is the start to our day. I start scrolling on Snapchat and literally the 20 stories I watched were my friends enjoying the biggest bar night. Im bummed. Im missing out. I wish I could’ve been them having fun like that with friends. Now it’s early as hell on thanksgiving and I have to find the energy to entertain my child who doesn’t sleep and cook for us to try to make something out of the holiday. I’m just having a hard time. No family because everyone died or is busy.

Has anyone experienced everyday nausea for 4+ weeks? Not pregnant and I don’t know what is wrong with me! I am 6 months postpartum.

Any advice appreciate!

Mum style

Does anyone else feel totally lost in terms of their clothing since becoming a mum? Working from home during the demic and pregnancy, combined with intense saving meant that I haven't had a proper wardrobe refresh in years now... I went I to full hibernation mode. The silhouettes that I am drawn to would only have suited me about 10 years ago now and I feel totally stuck on what to buy! Any suggestions on where to look for guidance??

Story of being a mum (Told through emojis)

Me:😴 -Turns to face baby- Me: 😴 Baby: 😳 Me: 😳 Baby: 😳.... 😃 Me: 😑 When it is 4am and turning to face your child is the worst mistake in your life.

For those of you who celebrate Christmas, what are your ideas for baby’s first year gifts?

And what about stocking stuffer ideas? Edited for spelling.

Just a thought

The teenage rebellion years are inevitable. My daughter trusts me and loves me so much. She also thinks I know karate and am good at nun-chucks. Someday the lies will catch up with me. Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Love your family!

Anxiety over husband being away.

Does anyone else hate single parenting whilst dad/mum is away? I don't have much else of a support group so it's probably mostly that but three kids on my own just feels like too much responsibility and I am just filled with anxiety until he comes back. He's only away for less than a week. Feel like such an idiot.

will my husband and I ever be able to game together again?

Ftm of a beautiful two week old boy. I couldn't be happier or more in love with him. I do however miss certain things about pre-baby life. Obviously this isn't the end of the world but I do find myself wondering about it. My husband and I have gamed together since we started dating 8 years ago. Up until the baby was born we used to game with friends for like an hour or two, maybe 4 nights a week. Right now, we're using our free time when the other is caring for the babe to get a few games in, but the part i really miss is the bonding with my husband. I don't think at this point it's realistic to just have the baby near us while gaming, because he might need to be changed/held/fed and you can't pause online games. Is this part of our lives over, or at least on hold until we can put him to bed for the night and expect him to sleep through (whatever age that happens at?)

Drowning in Spit Up

Hey everyone, question: I have a 3 month old boy, exclusively breastfed. He is a super happy dude, gaining weight successfully. Thing is- he spits up ALL. THE. TIME. he isn’t mad when he does it, doesn’t seem like he’s in pain or anything. But after every feeding, it’s burp with a ton of spit up. I’m so effing tired of being covered in baby vomit. It always misses the spit up rag, or my two year old has ran off with the rag and I don’t have one. Has anyone dealt with this? My pediatrician basically says “some kids spit up a lot!” And that’s it. and maybe that IS it and there’s nothing I can do, but I just hate being covered in baby vomit. It’s really getting to me. Any suggestions or advice is welcome.