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The child tax credit is how much?

FTM here, and have been looking at daycares for LO. I’m already sad that she’ll have to start at 6 months but also lucky knowing that some babies are even much younger here in the US. The daycare I like charges 2k/month. I’m thinking okayy, maybe we can swing it and at least we’ll get some tax credit? Oh man. The US really only gives 2k PER YEAR child tax credit. I’m Canadian and parents are GIVEN tax free monthly payments to help with raising children. This is such a messed up system.

I am matching his damn energy for Father's Day. Believe it.

Throwaway because my husband knows my reddit account. No flowers, no card, no letting me sleep in, no bedside breakfast, no offering to take the kids today, squat. That is what I got yesterday. He is getting the exact same thing he got me. You know what the real kicker is? He had the audacity to ask if I saw his amazon wish list. Me: "Why would I want to look at that?" Him with aghast facial expression: "For...father's day?" Me: "Oh, you mean hallmark day? Wouldn't father's day also be considered hallmark day if that is what you called mother's day yesterday?" Him: Mutters an immature cuss word under his breath, tosses the remote on the floor and walks away At least I don't have to look at him for a few hours.

Forgetting my son's birth weight & feeling lousy for it.

Tell me I'm not the only one. My son had an appointment today & an aide asked his birth weight. I froze for a moment, felt embarrassed/ashamed, & then gave my best guess. I've always struggled to remember his weight & height/length, which I feel a ludicrous amount of guilt over...even now as he's nearing 2-years-old. Thankfully, after double-checking once the appointment ended, I was correct about his birth weight! Still, I feel embarrassed that I could not relay that information without hesitation or uncertainty.

When did you guys stop using onesies?

LO turned a year old last week and started going to the toddler room today. I dressed him in a onesie and leggings. I saw most of the kids are wearing t shirts and shorts. Looking for advice on whether I should stop using onesies now..

Am I weird? I’m 40 weeks and I’ve been avoiding eating out at restaurants and large crowds to prevent getting sick around the time of labor. My SIL made me feel bad

So I have a rare autoimmune kidney disease where even if I get a small cold, my kidneys get attacked by my immune system and I pee blood for a few days while my body fights the virus. I also feel like death when I get sick, as my autoimmune disease flares up and I feel like I have the worst flu ever even if it’s just a cold. That’s why I’m considered a high risk pregnancy. There’s lots of colds going around right now in my area. I really really don’t want to deal with that while also trying to birth a baby. So, I’ve been avoiding large gatherings and avoiding eating at restaurants, etc, for the last couple weeks I didn’t show up to a birthday dinner/concert because of this reason for my SIL last week, but sent a gift. She was upset and said I’m too paranoid. Am I being way too paranoid?

Dream Life

-have another mom with a small child as a roommate -our babies grow up together -equal shares of housework -help each other with child care -have a garden -have a best friend to hang out with & split the mental load I’m realizing that I’m basically just talking about being gay and that’s valid. My husbands really getting in the way of that though🥲

Getting 2 teeth at once is no joke.

That's it. Lmao my 6m old got his first tooth and then immediately after started getting his 2nd tooth and it just cut through finally. It is kind of sad and funny to watch him realize he has these little dagger teeth now and he can't just mindlessly chomp on his hands bc there's a sharp thing there now. He bit his own finger on accident and he sad cried for 10 minutes. It was so sad lmao. Here's to you soon to be or currently teething parents. Solidarity.

For every action, there is an unintended reaction...

When you married him because he treated you special

Broke up with my husband last night. Did not plan ahead. I’m a sahm.

Obviously there have been issues. I’ve talked, and talked, and talked. I don’t ask for much. Hand holding, appreciation, hugs. Basic effing stuff if someone loves you— I thought. But after I realized he forgot about Mother’s Day on Thursday I tried to prepare myself. I wasn’t going to remind him. I’m tired of begging for love. But then we pulled into our driveway Sunday night after celebrating every other mom in our lives, and I just — broke. The day was over. My newborn and child in the back. I didn’t even get a card. Later I told him to find someone else. That I was dead inside and it was because of him. He tried to apologize by semi-blaming me. I don’t know where to go from here. He hasn’t said anything to me today. I fucked up my life. I have no one to turn to. We aren’t wealthy. I just couldn’t take it anymore. I felt like I was spiraling down a very dark hole and my kids were going to lose me.

Just volunteered for read aloud at my daughter's kindergarten and CRUSHED IT

The deal is you bring a book to read, then facilitate a craft based on the book. I read my favorite kids' book, Boot and Shoe, which is actually about two dogs and has nothing to do with footwear lol. But I cut out 22 colorful foam boots and shoes, hole punched them, and brought a whole bag of assorted 3D glitter stickers (unicorns, rainbows, sea creatures, rain clouds, stars), a pack of neon feathers, and a variety of colorful ribbons to tie the shoes through the holes. And it KILLED! The kids said it was their favorite craft all year, and also they love me 🥹 I got five hugs from kids that aren't even mine 😂 My daughter was so proud, yelling "SHE'S MY MOM YOU GUYS" lol. I think I just scored a million points with her. I didn't think my idea was that good 😂 Wooooo I'm just riding high lol. Great day.

Birth certificate names

I am curious what people’s thoughts are when it comes to last names on the birth certificate? I have two kids with the same man but I don’t feel we will ever get married. I kind of want to add my last name on the bc behind his but not sure how to bring up the conversation either!

Is it common for an overdue baby to drop in weight percentile down the road?

My 14 week old was 9 days over. Shocked everyone when she was born at 9lb 3oz, 97th percentile. At her 2 month appointment she had dropped to 76th and nobody batted an eyelid. I weighed her on our home scale (which I know is not accurate, but still) and she is still measuring 76th percentile. If they drop 2 major lines it’s cause for concern right? That only gives her 1% for wiggle room. Is it possible that’s just her normal and she was such a high percentile because she was overdue? I couldn’t find any research on it.

Impulsive 9 year old

My 9 year old son has been getting in trouble at school, mostly for physically fighting with other children, some are his friends, some aren’t. He’s been suspended 4 times in the last few months. The most recent being last Friday for fighting. Today was his first day back and I received another phone call that he was fighting again with another child and is suspended again. When I talk to him about it he says he can’t control himself. He’s very quick to get angry and I don’t know why. Punishments don’t help. I have made him a doctor appointment for Friday and making steps to get him into counselling but in the meantime does anyone have any suggestions to help with his impulsivity? Should I keep him out of school until I know he won’t harm other children? I’m at my wits end.

Shout out to my husband

In hopes of spreading some joy and positivity, i want to give a shout out to my husband. Not only he puts up with my bipolar ass, he is an amazing father to my daughter (not his biological daughter) and our son. He works extra hard to make sure I don't have to (i have health issues) and now is pursuing a better degree to make more money to make sure we never lack anything. Shout out to my hubby and to all the amazing parents out there who work hard for their families.

I told him I needed to pump

I just had a C-section Thursday. My youngest is in the NICU and can’t eat yet so I’m pumping. I finished my follow up appointment and my husband picked me up. I said “I’m hungry and I need to pump.” What does this man do? Takes everyone to the park, where I can’t participate with my oldest and I’m behind on my pumping schedule. Lord knows when we’ll finally get home. 🙃