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Can other parents validate that staying home with the baby is just as much a job as having a job?

I just need to be validated.

Never been more proud of my husband!

The other day we were at my MIL’s house for dinner and we were discussing my husband possibly looking for a new job after our second child is born (due in December). MIL made a comment that he would be able to work with lots of different people than he’s used to “not just illegals”. My husband blew up on her. Told her that he will not put up with her racist remarks and comments and refuses to let our boys grow up thinking that way, that a person’s skin color and who they love does not determine whether they are a good or bad person. I have never been more attracted to him!

Is this normal? Babys cord just fell off. I see some blood and I am freaking out.

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Why is everything so freaking expensive?!

When the hell did everything get so goddamn expensive? I say this coming from a place of privilege as my husband and I both have pretty good incomes. But two things right now that just feel so unaffordable are daycare and cars. Daycare is what it is, but I could literally own a second home with what I’m paying per month for daycare. The price of cars is INSANE. We have been looking for a new family vehicle. And even with something a few years old the prices are just outrageous! I’m like how does anyone afford this?! And this is on 2 good incomes and excellent credit! I don’t want to buy a 6 year old car and finance it because that feels totally insane! I feel like our salaries have not at all kept up with the cost of anything and I’m just pissed about it today. Rant over.

Why no added sugar or screen time before 2 years?

Our pediatrician reccomends no added sugar or screen time for our 16 month old before 2 years. I've heard these guidelines from a few other sources as well, and have just followed them without question. Recently my MIL thoughtfully brought gourmet egg-free (daughter has egg allergy) cupcakes over for my daughter, and I felt really guilty to tell her my daughter couldn't have any. When I reflected on the incident, I thought would it really of been that bad to of just have let my daughter have a cupcake?? I also wonder if it's okay to occasionally have sports games on in the background when daughter is playing in living room? Is there any evidence that a little added sugar and screen time before 2 is that bad? Or are these guidelines overly restrictive?

I wish with all my heart I could be a SAHM

She just turned 2 months. In a months time I have to go back to work and I wish I didn’t. I want to stay with her all day everyday. My heart aches thinking about leaving her with someone else. For financial reasons I have to go back to work. My husband can’t support us all and I wouldn’t want him to do that. I love being a mom. I love being HER mom. I wish the US had different maternity laws like they do in European countries. I’m just sad.

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Any other lesbian bromos on here?

Hi Guys! Im constantly on here and love this community with all my heart. Im just wondering if there’s any other bromos on here to talk to who are part of my even smaller community too. 99% of the stuff I read and want to rant about has zero to do with sexuality. But there are some things Id love to talk about that are gay mom specific if there’s any others looking for the same. For example Id love other lesbian moms experiences with other parents, our kids having to field questions from other kids, complicated coparenting dynamics related to this… the list goes on. I know you guys are on here I just haven’t found anything specifically relating to some of this. So I guess Im waving hello lol

Alcohol effects on parenting

Not looking for relationship advice. My partner drinks to excess on the weekends. I worry that he will pick up the baby at night and bring her into bed in his drunken state or do something else reckless while I’m asleep. I’ve begun sleeping in another room with the door locked (with the baby in her bassinet in the room with me) when he drinks. I also worry about the effect this is having on his relationship with his preteen daughter. Al Anon has not been helpful for me. All of this is to say, I’m looking for evidence based articles, papers etc on how alcohol use affects parenting and parenting safety. Obviously he cannot parent when he’s like this and it’s extremely frustrating for me to be the only parent in the home when his stepdaughter is here and now with the baby. Everything I look up in this arena is about fetal alcohol syndrome or alcohol use by the mother, or is about parents who drink to the point of becoming abusive, and that’s not our situation.

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Where can I get help?

So, we’ve been completely struggling lately since our vehicle went out on us. Our parts will be arriving this week, but by struggling I mean, not even able to go anywhere, work, store, food pantry even. We are completely out of everything, milk is my main necessity for my son. Like where can I seek help? Any information will be useful!

update: my 13yo daughter is in the hospital

SHES FINALLY GETTING DISCHARGED!!! FINALLY. She’s been in this place since last Sunday (i think???). She’s talking and walking and is doing great without the oxygen. I’m so excited to finally go home and sleep in my bed. I’m excited to spend some actual time with my other kids. She’s still not in the greatest mood but I can tell she’s excited to leave. Her classmates sent her the sweetest get well soon basket and she also has a surprise gift for when she gets home. A mother’s work is never done because now my 9yo has ringworm 😂🤦‍♀️ Thanks everyone for the well wishes and advice and support.💕💕💕

My baby isn’t attached to me and I’m sad

I live in a multigenerational household which has been amazing. But my 7 month old is not attached to me like other babies with their moms. I’m so sad about it. I can leave and he doesn’t care. I know it’s for the best in the long run and that it is a wonderful thing he feels secure with so many people, but it definitely hurts. I only breast fed for a few months too, which I’m guessing didn’t help :/

Everyone said it would get easier

Sure, the sleep has gotten a million times better. He naps great and sleeps great at night. However, when he’s awake he is just always so unhappy anymore. He’s 10.5 months old. He never really smiles, always whines and fusses. Was once independent but now always needs to be held. I quit my job to become a stay at home mom because I just couldn’t handle being away from him. I still feel like I wouldn’t be able to, but I also feel like I *need* to. I don’t want to enroll him in daycare because I don’t want to deal with the colds again (he was in daycare from 3-5 months old before I quit my job), the messed up sleep, etc. Nannies are too expensive and would make my salary moot. I know he’s growing like crazy and it’s hard for him right now. I have a few “friends” with babies his age and they always seem so happy. I feel like I’m doing something wrong. Does anyone have any similar experiences? Did it get better?